When we struggle with unhappiness we tend to drag others along this unhappy rapd we lead. A smile doesn't always need to be fake to get you through, peel use fake smiles every day think of the fake smile you gave across a room to a stranger. We do it so we don't have to sit there looking blank, smile rather than ignore, ill smile rather tha ignore that person across the room, maybe il know them from some where.
We are transparent, our faces can flush colour, the colour will drain when something we hear isn't expected or worrying to others, when people have done wrong by others. And you confront them the colour will flush from their faces. Because you have made them face it themselves.
We aren't personal in this world anymore, we don't hold secrets well. We spread a word like a disease spreading through a population. But stories tend to grow as they get more momentum and more people get to attach wording to the story. So don't always believe on heresay. Heresay might come from 27 differing people whom have made the story a little better with a little fabrication. It's amazing how fabrication can make things look pretty or worse then they really are.
Without fabrication no real good stories would be written nor would they be told. They would be hidden secrets, people would not learn, could they move forward or move on? Just because of a fabricated story? Seems today we needs to be lied to this way it won't interrupt our delusion or the lies we live by. Having to reajust the way we live can be a hard task.
Any task is a hard as you make it, and the bigger the tool box the easier the job, in other words allow your kind to expend with lies and the truth. You can grow as a person through fabrication, your life can be a whole lie of you want it to be. Sometimes making something up in your mind can be much soothing and relaxing than living with the truth. TV shows have much to answer for unrealistic relationships. And high expectations romance. Not everything is a TV show, we would like our partners all to be like someone from our favourite movie. But let's be honest about how life really is, we all have our own roles to play in our own TV shows . We write our own stories, every chapter has it's ups and downs like a drama, it's what we do with this drama.
Being unhappy in a relationship is one hard thing to change, but this all begins when we try to change the person we are with, this control isn't healthy. Look at your own relationship now are you happy? I mean do you like to spend time with your partner? You don't need to talk their company is enough, when your partner likes to do things and you don't, it's not fair not to compramise, lets say your partner likes to come home have a beer well you can't complain about that, some people really struggle with the hype that woke has attached to it. Does your partner stop you from having wine? So what's the problem, a few drinks at night was a big thing for many men, these days they come home and drink it's better for them to be able to be honest to you rather than lie, when you suppress a person your suppressing yourself and not allowing both of you to grow. If your relationship is like this it's toxic. If your partner is deciding what you wear or how you do you hair, your not good enough for them. A perfect person is a person you don't want to change in anyway, they come to you from the universe and you don't need anything else but yo hand that person nothing material will surpass the fact that some day you could be seperated by death.
Thinking a child will fix things has been a young woman's mistake that's been made since the start of time. You can never keep a man by having his child and if your relationship is shit to begin with why would you bring a child into the mix? Children aren't like dogs you can't throw them away, well you can of you don't have a conscience. To many people think a child is a weapon and use them that way, your child is no weapon, your child needs your guidance and support you are your child's role model in life and they need you to teach them wrongs and rights, many woman today are single mothers and they can't rely on the child's father, financially or emotionally. Don't answer questions with a negative response, give yourself the time to be honest to your children, always answer with when I find out the facts I'll tell you, remember you can never really answer for another. Why doesn't daddy visit me? You can't answer this, is it because he doesn't love me? You can't answer this question you need to tell your child that you can't answer questions for others and the importance of always communicating their feelings through words or writing.
Have you ever given your child a pen and asked them what they feel? Many children can't express their feelings because you have never expressed your own.
Love has so many means so teach your children all of them but the most important love of all is to love yourself.
Men out there also make wonderful fathers so if you have a wonderful father out there embrace him and thank him for being a part of your child's life. Even if you are not with them and they do their job thank them, dragging children through family court aren't really in the best interests of the child, take a moment to think. Is it worth the hassles? To get his super or to put him on a poverty line because he hurt you had? It's not okay. If a father wants to see their child they will drive for miles they won't fight a parent who is providing a loving environment with opportunities. Just because you want to hurt your ex is it worth hurting your children too? No amount of money you have when your child is 17 will help their mental status when they are feeling torn and depressed. Distructive behaviour like this is dangerous and your child deserves every opportunity to succeed and you the role models need to be there.
Being a father doesn't mean you made the baby. Just because you had a fuck one night doesn't mean your capable of looking after children so of you are selfish and not ready for this in this day and age there are a lot of ways to protect yourself, if you want to sleep around do it, just do it safely. What a father is, they listen to their child's needs you don't need to buy your child the best bike or the biggest Easter egg. Your time is what makes you a father, being their to show your children the way. Holding their hand and sometimes being a father means you don't even need to be a man. You just need to have that hand.
When you feel sad many people need to emotionally detach from things and step out and look at things as a person from the outside. When we see things when we are angry or emotional we don't make rational decisions. When if we took a moment to see things as others we would see them in a practical way. When you can give others advice it's time to take your own, look in the mirror and talk to yourself, you don't have to agree you just have to talk to yourself, when you see yourself things will make sense and don't be surprised if you laugh so hard you wet yourself, because seeing things can be humerous and it can be a great way to heal.
To many people get stuck, we are meant to live longer so why are we cutting ourselves off short, we not often get things like opportunities given to us and many of us who do waste them, you hate your job or can't get a job? Well what do you want to do? To many people seem to think things fall out if the sky, that's only for the fortunate. And often those of you who sit silent doing your work will never be noticed for higher roles, why allow the hardest worker a position of power then may move away. No good manager has friends at work. Think of those you have worked for in climbing a ladder at work you won't make friends so if you want to keep others happy just stay where you are, don't allow yourself to be so loyal that you won't change or look for something better, it's always out there but you need to take the steps to do it, these days we all need a qualification so get yourself qualified and don't even think twice about it , famous saying can be oh but it's going to take z4 years those four years are coming anyway so why not use them to better yourself. Pick something you have never heard if before, you will find that your brain is a sponge and loves new things we just don't allow ourselves to do anything new because we are familar with what we do. Never burn bridges, when you leave a job give notice and always keep the door open, of my job is still going and it doesn't work out can I come back, those bosses who know the work you do will either offer you something better or keep your seat open. You can get any job if you have good references so make yourself known at work, and make your mark, the world owes you nothing so if you have your hand out one day a rock will fall from the sky and chop them off, your happiness at work can mean ,any things will fall into place.
You need to take the steps now to stop your unhappiness, we aren't all depressed we are often all just stuck and to many times we just let things pass us by, we don't give ourselves the credit and we don't allow ourselves to try, why would the universe provide you with anything when you won't change anything? Tomorrow starts with you, today was the day you thought about it tomorrow you will slap the faces if all of your negative voices in your head and you will find your ultimate place it's called happiness.
